Diario de HealthyBabs, 06 mar. 11

It's raining up here too, I hope it doesn't pour all day... at least I got out last night and yesterday afternoon. I hope to get out to church too if it isn't raining heavy I'm off to go this morning or afternoon, have a good Sunday... 

Babs, so glad you enjoyed your day with your parents, and your DH was able to help out with the To Do list. Sunday's and rainy days...are actually quite cozy....great day to just relax..and enjoy your DH. Baby Back Ribs sound wonderful...enjoy your day.  

Morning Babs, isn't it nice to hear that your mom is proud of you? Those baby back ribs sounds delish..Have a good Sunday...Bren 

Spring will be there soon!! It's already started in Florida and it's working it's way up. Have a Great Day at Church and with your Hubby. :) And those ribs sound delicious!! :D  

Yeah, childhood baggage..... My mother is proud of me for stupid things like, baking a cake, not for any really achievements. But I won't go there either, LOL! You sound so very happy, so I am really glad for you. :) 

@ceceps, I unloaded that baggage years ago and so don't really feel the need to journal a whole lot about it but I think we had very similar experiences about it from the sounds of things. 

@Bren - yea, but too bad I haven't heard it much....maybe 5 times in my whole 53 yr life.  

Slight change in dinner plans. NO, make that major change.... Was really looking forward to the Baby Back Ribs and sounds like you all were too. Had to go out in this crappy weather today and my DH decided he wanted Burger King at 3pm. So made today instead of Tuesday my high calorie day and had BK at 3. Got home, took an extra blood pressure pill to get rid of the sodium asap and have been guzzling tons of water all day anyway, about six 32 oz bottles so far. Hope that rids the sodium quickly and doesn't wack up the scale too much for me tomorrow. Made a spaghetti sauce for during the week and the ribs on the plan for Tuesday. All meals are planned out thru Thursday. Will probably make some last minute changes to the veg but will most likely stick to it pretty well. 

I love Burger King. Thank goodness the nearest one if 18 miles away. Only get one once in awhile. They are the best when they run down you arm while eating..Just Kidding. I leave it in the wrapper. But they are messy....Bren 

Babs, I am happy for you that your mom told you that she was proud of you. But bummer about the ribs. I love baby back ribs....mmmm, yummy!! Hope the water helps flush the sodium and that the scale is kind tomorrow. Have a great evening! 

Babs, interesting how alike all of us are here, and how incredibly different at the same time. Interesting that you mentioned you had worked thru most of issues w/ your mom, and yet there seems to still be that 'something' that rises up in you and produces (guessing here...conflict, stress, anxiousness, frustration, sadness ???) I can't really put my finger on it, but I do hope you really were being honest when you say you will spend some time reflecting on it. It has been my experience that 'unresolved' issues with older / elderly parents, is just not a good thing. Some things left unfinished with my Dad, will never fully be resolved...as he died...and now it's too late. And my Mom, she can't remember things. So for me to have any issues with the past - force me to really feel frustrated at someone who simply can't remember. I can be right as rain...and it doesn't matter...cause she can't remember. Now, she says such nice things, and so often, (and somewhat out of character for the old her) that I find most of the time...I really don't believe her. Maybe that's why she repeats herself so much! LOL!! Cause I don't acknowledge some of the nice things she says. I just ignore them, cause they hit a sore place in my heart...and I really want to go back and say...yeah, well if you feel this way now...why didn't you ....back then???? But she can't remember. Get how awkward that is to your emotions, when the other people are either dead, or unable to deal with stuff. Do it now, while you can! And do it for you!!! Either finish the work and talk things through with her, ... or forgive ... and move on. It REALLY does make all the difference to your own MENTAL HEALTH...and isn't that part of what we are doing here...getting healthy! Love you much, and praying for you, Mom, and the opportunity to love wholeheartedly! 

@Paula- I have talked this out with my mom a couple of years ago and she is very well aware of my feelings relative to many things in our past. There is no forgiveness necessary because she has done nothing wrong except not treat me in a way I would have rathered. She is who she is and this is just how she is. Not a really warm and fuzzy mom, but one I truly love nonetheless. Our relationship has changed somewhat since our talk and I am at peace with it. I only regret it was not this rich when we were both a whole lot younger. 

Babs, I sometimes sit and think about 'what will my own kids think and say about our relationships when they are older?' I hope they will come to me and talk things through. Really hope you and your mom continue to grow together! Life is short, and she'll be gone one day, so I think you are doing a great job keeping it real, but loving her for who she is. Well done. 

I also have a lot of issues with my mom She can not help who she is because of the way she was treated when she was young and when she was married to my dad. Being raised by old school parents is tough. The way I deal with the bad memories is to not rent it any head space anymore. It makes you old. Slam the door on toxic thoughts and treat your parents like you want to be treated and they might just learn something. It is never to late. I love my mom now. She is 80 this year 

@Jude, we worked thru alot of the old stuff and are in a much better place now for the most part, I just shake my head at some of the stuff she says without thinking. She will be 80 in May and my dad just turned 80. I do love them dearly and cherish the time we have left together.